My name is Adila.
A few years ago I started noticing things. Strange things. Things that didn't add up and didn't make sense. I wasn't feeling like myself and I couldn't explain why. So I did what most of us do... I went to the doctor.
And my doctor told me nothing was wrong with me but also prescribed Prozac because it would "help".
Except something was very wrong with me. Or at least it felt that way. The symptoms were real. The confusion was real. The frustration was very, very real.
It took time...too much time...to finally get the answer: perimenopause.
Nobody told me. Not my doctor. Not my mother. Not my friends. Nobody sat me down and said this is what's coming and here's what it's going to feel like. I was completely blindsided by a phase of life that affects every single woman on the planet.
That's why The Pause Talk exists.
I started sharing my experiences because I kept thinking about my daughter and the younger women behind me. Women who deserved to know what was coming so they wouldn't be blindsided the way I was. Women who deserved to hear someone say this is real, it's not in your head, and you are not alone.
What I didn't expect was how many women my own age were feeling the exact same way. Confused. Dismissed. Navigating something huge completely on their own.
So we started talking about it. Loudly. Honestly. And with a whole lot of humor, because sometimes laughing at the absurdity of it all is the only sane response to your shirt personally offending you at 7am.
What The Pause Talk is:
A community for women 35+ who are done pretending this chapter of life isn't happening. We talk about the symptoms nobody warned us about, the moments that make absolutely no sense, and the things we wish someone had told us years ago.
No shame. No filters. No pretending we're fine when we are clearly not fine.
You belong here if:
Welcome to The Pause Talk.
Nobody told us this part. So we're telling each other.